I’m so happy Book Club started back up again. I love reading and meeting once a week with other ladies keeps me accountable. The choice this quarter (we’re all busy so 2 chapters a week is our goal and I’m lucky if I can get that far) is Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst.
We’re only 4 chapters in, but so far, this book is a game changer. Before you start reading, take this assessment and see which category you fall into. I could tell you (so could Huz and my friends) I am a Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks just by reading it. No assessment necessary. I get it from my mom. (Sorry, mom. But you do this too.) We seem to remember every little thing that offends us and instead forgiving & forgetting, we forgive-and-bury-our-offense-a-few-layers-deep-but-keep-a-shovel-handy-for-when-it’s-convenient-for-us-to-dig-it-up.
But I guess “collects retaliation rocks” fits nicer as a category.
To prove my point, I’ll share a funny (well, what I think is funny) story about Corianne and I. About a year ago, when she was pregnant and busy chasing around a 1 year old, she text me and said she felt sad that we hadn’t seen each other in a few weeks. (Her Love Language is also Quality Time.) I hadn’t thought much about it, but promised to make a better effort. And I really did make a better effort. I text her that next Friday to see if she wanted to grab dinner. But she already had plans. I text her the next week to see if she wanted to run to Target. But she had just been. I text her the next week to see if she wanted to see a movie. But she wasn’t feeling great.
It was then I decided to keep a little note in my phone of all the times I asked her to hang out and she couldn’t. My little own collection of Retaliation Rocks. I kept it for a few months.
03-17-14 – Asked Cee to dinner, Porter was sick
03-28-14 – Asked Cee to go on a walk, she was tired
04-04-14 – Asked Cee if she wanted to come over, she just put Porter to bed
Truth be told, I was excited for her to complain about not seeing each other, so I could WHAM throw my note in her face, ninja-style.
Until one night we were at a women’s event at church (go figure) and Lysa TerKeurst was preaching. She said that we all have friends in our lives who collect Retaliation Rocks. Corianne nudged me and jokingly said, “Hehehe. That’s you.” And I thought, OH MY GOSH, LYSA TERKEURST IS GOING THROUGH MY PHONE NOTES AND KNOWS WHAT A CRAP FRIEND I AM!
I decided to pull out my phone and show Corianne my Retaliation Rocks right then. We did the silent giggle in the back row for a good 15 minutes, with tears streaming down our faces. Luckily, she is a forgiving friend. (And rarely cancels on me now…probably because she’s afraid I’m taking notes.)
My point being, that this book is full of little nuggets that I’m so happy to be reading. We’re all a work in progress. Or as Lysa puts it, we’re all making imperfect progress. But progress nonetheless.